We all know that infidelity is cancerous and needs to be cut out of a relationship with laser guided precision. After all, isn’t infidelity the result of a poor sex life? Not necessarily. There are many different reasons that can cause a lover to stray. Everything from money to lack of emotional support could be the blame for the loss of sexual arousal between you and your partner. No matter where you are in the relationship, a spicy sex life is guaranteed to remedy whatever problems you’re having – including infidelity. Here are a few suggestions that will jazz it up in the bedroom and bring you closer together.
Act out Your Sexual Fantasies and Fetishes
Sexy lingerie, oral sex and emulating the moves from a porn flick all seem to fit the bill when it comes to getting kinky – but why not take it a step further. Regardless of how comfortable you are, a sexual fantasy is something you should never be embarrassed to try. Acting out some of these fantasies can make for an awesome sexual experience.
Domination – Every woman loves a strong man to take control in the bedroom but when the tables are turned, the fun begins. What could be more arousing than tying him to the bed and making him beg for sexual release while he pleasures you with his tongue? This can also work by having your man dominate you with your hands tied behind your back and blindfolded. The loss of sight heightens the sense of touch. Add a little “man handling” to the situation and it can definitely get your juices flowing.
Force fantasy – If you like rough sex, then this one is a definite must. It’s the dirty, wild sex you crave as he rips your clothes off while you resist – when all along, you’re enjoying every minute of it. This type of brutal foreplay can lead to an incredible orgasm for the both of you.
Striptease – There’s nothing better than having your man salivate over you while you shake the goodies in his face. Adding the element of “no touching” only increases his sexual arousal as you dance and strip down to your birthday suit. This is also a very good indicator that he still finds you attractive – and of course, his enjoyment and bulging pants will be all the proof you need.
Role play – You can get really creative with this fantasy. To make it authentic, you would need to dress up as a nurse, an officer or a teacher. Once suited, you can let your imagination run wild. Are you a naughty teacher giving your student a little one-on-one tutoring? Or are you a nurse willing to give your patient a little extra treatment? Writing a script with lines for the both of you just makes it that much more enjoyable. Even though your acting may be poor, the sex won’t.
Use Props, Food and Drinks to Stimulate Oral Sex
Oral sex is a very important part of an intimate relationship – but yet - it is often something that’s just taken for granted and a second thought is never given after it’s over. In reality, oral sex is the ultimate bond of sexual intimacy between couples. There are several ways to “kick it up a notch” when it comes to going downtown. Of course, edible panties and flavored condoms all work their magic at some point, but there are other ways to add thrill to the feel.
Use a flashlight – Turn off the lights and begin to flash certain spots on your body that he has to kiss. Do this in succession ultimately leading down to a more lustful location. Think of the game Simon. Before flashing the prize, he has to kiss each spot in the order you flash them. If he misses a spot, he has to start over. This is a clever way to increase arousal for you and him.
Ice cream – Place spoonful of your favorite ice cream into your mouth and take him in. The cold and hot mix well and can cause a wondrous shiver. You will also get the same effect by spooning ice cream into his mouth while he licks the most sensitive part of your body.
Peppermint schnapps – Both of you take a sip then slowly rub your tongue and lips together. Repeat this as your tongues end up in more private areas. The tingling sensation is exhilarating. Not to mention, the buzz will definitely add to the mood.
Hand held mirror – Use a mirror when receiving oral sex. Position it so you can get a bird’s eye view of the work in progress. This can work both ways. Being able to see it up close only intensifies the pleasure.
These are just a few ways you can add sizzle back into your relationship. Good sex is a great stress reliever and by adding certain elements, it can really strengthen the emotional ties between you and your partner. You’ll be amazed at the level of communication and attraction that is the result of this kind of activity.
